Fixing a Stranger's Midlife Crisis in 8 Minutes
A paid subscriber wrote to me recently with some problems he wanted to talk about, so we did a 1:1 call.
Early forties, good job, relationship, stable life. He wanted to talk about why he felt like he was shutting down.
From the outside, nothing was wrong. He had the things you’re supposed to have. But inside, something had gone quiet. No drive, no fire, no direction. He used to love editing videos, now he just watches YouTube instead.
He told me, unprompted, that he had an inferiority complex. I give him a lot of credit for saying that out loud because I think most people who feel this way would never admit it.
Some would say this is a textbook midlife crisis situation. I would add that this is actually a masculine crisis, but even more broadly than that, a human crisis of our modern digital age.
What came out of the call was four things, all feeding into each other, each one making the others worse:
Low testosterone blunting his energy and drive.
An attention problem giving him an easy escape from ever confronting the real problems.
An inferiority complex keeping him small and preventing action.
And no purpose connecting anything in his life to something that actually matters to him.
Let me walk through what I told him and why, in the order of what would move the needle first.
If you recognize yourself in this situation, you need to keep reading.
This is part of a new series where I get on a call with subscribers and we talk about what is keeping them stuck. If you want to do a call for free, send me a DM: